How do parents teach their teen daughter that they have to learn whether or not a guy is only interested in sex? It is important dating lesson, one that teens are learning earlier and earlier.
Here are a few tips I like to give teen girls when they start thinking about boys and dating:
1) Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Boys can be smooth talkers. One thing I try to impress upon girls (even on my 23 year-old friends) is that girls read way more into language than boys. Some boys—not all, might stretch the truth if it means they will get to hook-up with you. That is why listening to actions, is almost more important than listening to words. Does he say he cannot wait to see you, but forgets to call? Does he say that he does not care if you hook-up, but then is very physical when you see each other?
2) Learn to Read Faces
Most people actually display most of their emotions on their faces. Teen boys especially are not very good at hiding their true emotions. This can be a great way to see if he is telling the truth and how he really feels. Look at his face the instant you say ‘no’ to doing something you are uncomfortable with. Does he look sad, scared, embarrassed or worried? These are all OK emotions. If he looks angry, resentful, bored or annoyed this is not a good sign.
3) How Do His Friends Treat You
Guys always talk to their guys about sex and you. I find that if you meet his friends and they have heard about you, talk to you and take an interest in you, your guy probably shared his idea that he likes you more than just for sex. If they ignore you, make lewd comments or snicker when you come in, you might want to have a talk with one of them or your guy for what they know.
Saturday, September 19, 2009
Teaching Teen Girls: 5 Signs A Guy Is Only Interested in Sex
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Sex can be fun for teens
Britain''s National Health Service wants children to have a positive approach to sex, for which it has come up with new pamphlet, called Pleasure.
NHS in the Sheffield, South Yorkshire has released the booklet.
It apparently contains a section called "an orgasm a day'''' encouraging educators to inform teens about the positive physical and emotional effects of sex and masturbation, apart from demonstrations about how to use condoms and other contraceptives.
Teachers will now need to emphasise that sexual relations can be healthy and pleasurable instead of simply explaining the mechanics of sex and warning about diseases.
However, some people claim it will increase promiscuity.
"Some of it is good sense, but I think it''s wrong is to suggest that 16-year-olds should wantonly enter into having sexual intercourse for pleasure,'''' the Daily Telegraph quoted Anthony Seldon, headmaster of Wellington College, as saying.
He said: "I think this is medically wrong and emotionally wrong and will increase teenage pregnancy and impact negatively on the formation of a long-term loving relationship.''''
However, Steve Slack, who helped produce the leaflet as Director of the Centre for HIV & Sexual Health in Sheffield, said: "Far from promoting teenage sex, it is designed to encourage young people to delay losing their virginity until they are sure they will enjoy the experience.''''
Also, Ruth Smith, news editor of Children & Young People Now magazine, believes that the booklet will help young people become more comfortable with their sexuality.
He said: "Research shows young people feel pressured to have sex before they''re ready,'''' she said. "This booklet is intended to give them the skills to discuss it. It''s not a licence to go out and have sex, it''s saying if you do, do it, wait until you''re ready and enjoy it. It makes them more confident and more able to say no.
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Teenagers sharing sexual Pictures via texts on the rise
A new survey has found that more and more teenagers are sharing sexual pictures of themselves via texts and on the Internet as part of a worrying new trend.
The survey revealed that a huge number of young people have been sent a sex text or “Sext”, and the images are of both boys and girls exposing themselves or involved in sexual acts.
The pictures are circulated by email, text, Bluetooth or added to social networking sites, said charity Beatbullying who carried out the research.
The charity also warns parents that their children could be bullied into taking explicit and potentially damaging pictures.
“We don’t want to stifle young people’s sexual development but it is important that parents and schools understand the rise of sexting so together we can act to stop sexual bullying,” Sky News quoted chief executive Emma-Jane Cross as saying.
“Politicians must pool together organisations like Beatbullying to create an intervention and prevention task force in schools and the local community.
“This needs to be part of the solution if we are to educate our young people about the consequences of their actions and how to keep safe online as well as offline,” she added.
The survey of 2,094 youngsters in England found that it was most often not strangers who were sending the messages, and that seven out of 10 of the 11-18-year-olds surveyed said that they knew the sender personally.
The study further showed that a quarter of the messages sent were from the youngster’s current boyfriend or girlfriend.
