The humble headache has had its day as far as excuses to avoid sex are concerned, for now the reigning white lie to snub a romp is ''I''m too tired'', says a new survey.
''''I''ve got a headache'''' has lost its lustre and fallen to number three in the list behind ''''I''m not in the mood''''.
Other white lies to make the top five included ''''I''ve got to get up early in the morning'''' and ''''I''m pre-occupied with work''''.
The conclusion was made after studying 4,000 adults.
The not-so-kinky research also revealed that one in five Brits regularly make excuses to avoid having sex.
Seven out of 10 said they were often too exhausted to enjoy sex. And four out of 10 said the recession had played havoc with their sex life, the study found, reports The Telegraph.
A spokesman for www.OnePoll.com, which carried out the study, said: ''''The humble headache has had its day as far as excuses are concerned.
''''Tiredness plays a much bigger part in our reasons not to climb between the sheets these days and enjoy some quality time together.
''''And its hardly surprising when we are all working longer hours than ever before and have so many things to worry about.
''''Fears over whether will be able to pay our mortgages or even whether we will have a job in a month''s time are bound to affect our bedroom performance.
''''It was intriguing to see just how the recession has affected our passion levels too.''''
The report also found men are more likely to make excuses than women with 27 per cent admitting they often avoided sex compared to 18 per cent of women.
Top Ten Sex Excuses
1. Too tired
2. I''m not in the mood
3. I''ve got a headache
4. I''ve got to get up in the morning
5. I''m pre-occupied with work
6. I''m angry with you
7. I can hear one of the children
8. You need a shower
9. I''ve got a bad back
10. Too soon in our relationship.
Friday, September 18, 2009
Top white lie to shun sex: I''m too tired
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Love boosts creativity!
Love is not only blind, it is creative also! Atleast researchers think so.
The lovestruck enjoy a surge in creative powers while those who are merely randy are sharper logicians, a new study finds.
Dutch researchers asked students to imagine either a romantic walk with a loved one or a one-night stand with a casual acquaintance before giving them a set of problems involving either creative thinking or logic, Miller-McCune reports.
On problems calling for creative thinking, the group with romance in mind outperformed both the lustful and a control group asked to imagine themselves a solitary stroll, while the reverse was true for the logic puzzles. The results, researchers say, demonstrate that people "process information in two fundamentally different ways: They focus on the forest, or they focus on the trees." The romantic were looking at the long-term picture, they say, while those with sex on the brain were more suited to pursuing short-term goals—such as "specific Klik disini untuk melanjutkan »»
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
Bad Marriage: Four options
Ours was a love marriage that had the blessings of our parents. The wedding was a grand affair. Not wanting to embarrass my well-placed in-laws, my parents went way beyond their means.
For a while, life was idyllic. Then my husband started becoming less attentive, increasingly argumentative, and began putting in longer hours at his workplace. One day, he didn’t come home. He returned after a couple of days saying he’d had to take a sudden trip out of town. When this happened a few more times, I enquired with his friends and collegues and stumbled on an extra-marital affair that had been going on for 10 years.
I dug out the lady’s address and dropped in on her. She was out but I spotted photographs of my husband and her together. She was a widow with two sons.. One was still studying while the other had just started working. My husband had been paying for their upbringing.
The beatings began
That evening I confronted Paritosh (name changed). He didn’t deny the affair. He told me he had duped me because he needed a wife who was socially acceptable. He was aware that his older, widowed lover would never be welcomed home but had hoped I’d learn to share him with her. No way, I raged, and the beatings started.
I was four months pregnant but that didn’t stop him from getting verbally and physically abusive. After a couple of months, I returned to my parents. He refused to support me.
I was wondering what to do when my younger sister came home one evening from a training programme and educated me about the Domestic Violence Act. She urged me to press for my rights. I went to the cops and filed charges. I didn’t want a divorce but I told Paritosh that if he didn’t come home, I’d make sure he paid the betrayal of trust.
Initially, he resisted. His lover, too, refused to let him go. But after several counselling sessions and talks with his parents, we reconciled. Our newborn baby helped bring us together. I took him back even though he’d cheated on me. He’s stopped visiting his lover. He’s stopped abusing me. The nightmare seems to have ended.
Social worker Kanmani’s take
I visited the couple a month ago. Sunita (name changed) seemed happy. Paritosh has promised never look at another woman. But I can’t help wondering if a leopard can change its spots completely. He did betray her trust once.
‘Speak up and fight for your rights’
Sonali Khan, director communications, has for the last five years, spearheaded Breakthrough’s mass media initiative in India. Breakthrough is a non-profit, international human rights organisation using the power of popular culture, media, and education to transform public attitudes. It will complete 10 years next year.
In 2005, Breakthrough’s first multi-media campaign addressed women’s vulnarabiltity to HIV. “What kind of man are you?” was released in seven languages. Its second campaign raised the issue of stigma and discrimination faced by HIV positive women. Both these award winning camapigns have reached out to over a 100 million people. Bell bajao! (featuring Boman Irani) is the latest initiative and addresses over 130 million, appealing against domestic violence.
Khan who was a senior correspondent with Televsion 18 and an independent producer of documentaries, points out that domestic violence transcends caste, culture and class boundaries but is often swept under the carpet. “In the last one-and-a-half years, I’ve heard so many stories about abuse even from progressive, upper-class, financially independent women who are afraid to come out for fear of social stigma. But the only way out of the nightmare is to speak up and fight for your rights,” asserts Khan.
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Saturday, August 22, 2009
Why girls can’t resist the Geeks
In what may help understand why geeks get the girls, a study on the Satin Bowerbird’s mating rituals has for the first time directly linked a male's cognitive performance to his luck with the ladies.
"Males that are better problem-solvers are mating with more females," New Scientist magazine quoted says Jason Keagy, a behavioural ecologist at the University of Maryland in College Park, as saying.
The researcher points out that males construct elaborate shrines – bowers – to woo females, who judge them by the quality of their ornately decorated grass bowers, and elaborate mating dances.
Keagy says that both features let males to show off their smarts.
For their study, Keagy and colleagues developed a bowerbird IQ test to record which males attracted the most females over two breeding seasons.
The tests required males to remove red blocks, a colour they find odious, from their bowers in two different ways.
In one test, the researchers placed blocks under a clear plastic container, which birds had to knock off before removing the blocks. In the second test, they presented males with an unmoveable red block screwed into the ground.
The researchers observed that the smartest males determined that covering the block with leaves was the best way to obscure it.
According to Keagy, one possibility is that the tests reflect on duties connected to mating, and males that are better at problem-solving may construct more appealing bowers.
As to why do females favour more intelligent males, the researcher says that intelligence seems to act as an indicator of the genetic quality of a potential mate, and the genes he will pass onto his offspring.
"A male that has a well functioning brain is probably going to be good at surviving. It's almost like a way of interpreting all this information about the genetic quality of a male," Keagy says.
Two recent studies conducted by Geoffrey Miller, of the University of New Mexico in Albuquerque, and his wife Rosalind Arden, of King's College in London, have also shown that more intelligent men among Vietnam veterans experienced fewer health problems, such as hernias and cataracts, than less intelligent men.
They also found performance on intelligence to be associated with healthy sperm in a smaller subset of vets.
A research article describing Keagy’s study has been published in the journal Animal Behaviour.
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Thursday, August 20, 2009
How to de-stress your Sex-life
Do you feel that stress is squeezing the fun out of your bedroom life?
If yes, then you can bring back the action, courtesy tips provided by sex educator and relationship expert Dr. Yvonne Kristin Fulbright. According to the expert, many couples become frustrated, even panicky, when their sex lives go to the wayside during stressful times. When it comes to the factor that governs a person's sex life, it's personality, reports Fox News.
In order to avoid any such misunderstandings and still keep sex life full of fun and passion, Fulbright has suggested that couples need to establish a common ground and mutual understanding during stressful times.
Also, they should make an effort to stay connected during life's highs and lows, because if they don't, it could lead to dire consequences. And in case, sex is not on mind and also the time to be spent in the sack is less, then a person can try the following:
1. Showing appreciation for one another. Giving compliments, for example, is a simple way of expressing affection and letting your partner know that he or she is still being noticed and loved.
2. Talking daily. Chat during dinner or at bedtime. Conversations foster bonding by providing support. It's also important for couples to check in with each other, showing concern and care for one another's well-being with simple statements like, "Tell me about your day."
3. Staying positive . Bite your tongue if you're about to complain. Stressful situations are hard enough to deal with. Don't add to it if you can avoid doing so.
4. Believing in your future together. Stressful times can make lovers doubt their ability to stay together for the long haul. Insecurity issues that arise can only make matters more difficult. Making plans is one way to indicate that you're feeling secure about your future.
5. Helping each other with responsibilities . Approaching tasks with a team effort provides a greater sense of being in ‘this’ together.
6. Balancing ‘alone time’ and ‘together time.’ Create a sensual atmosphere, for example, soothing scents, dim lights, delicious food, and relaxing music to help you unwind.
7. Getting creative in how you'll be intimate . Redefine your definition of sexual intimacy when needed; try a simple body massage.
Not to forget, lovers should make it a point to give in to one another's requests for intimacy whenever possible, as it might just prove to be a big stress-buster. In fact, sex has many physical and emotional benefits, which may help in boosting your desire for more sex and emotional intimacy. Sex can easily take your mind off of your worries.
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Wednesday, August 19, 2009
Kissing ‘poses Herpes risk’
The next time you kiss your partner, keep this health warning in mind – the symbol of affection is a major transmitter of herpes.
While kissing 'demonstrates love and affection', it also poses risks, warns the Australian Herpes Management Forum (AHMF) ahead of the roll-out of a national ad campaign.
AHMF executive director Tricia Berger says that kissing poses risks to both adults and children.
"No parent kissing their child or partner kissing their girlfriend wants to pass along the Herpes Simplex Virus (HSV), but people should be aware this is the main method of transmission," the NZPA quoted Berger as saying.
"Once you have been infected with HSV-1 or HSV-2, the virus stays in your body for life and can be reactivate at any time," Berger added.
HSV-1, the variant of the virus otherwise referred to as cold sores, is commonly acquired as a child from contact, often a kiss, with adult relatives.
Berger says that when a person becomes infected, they will not always have typical cold sore symptoms.
"If you have a herpes sore on or near your mouth, its likely that you'll pass the virus along to whomever you kiss," she says.
"It is also possible to transmit the virus even when there are no apparent sores or symptoms, but the risk is higher when the sores are visible," she added.
HSV-1 is also behind 40 per cent of genital herpes cases, while about 12 per cent of people have the virus' HSV-2 variant, which is the most common cause of genital herpes.
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Tuesday, August 18, 2009
Obama ’supports repeal’ of same-sex marriage ban, Lawyers say
The Obama administration sent mixed signals on same sex-marriage Monday, frustrating both sides of the contentious issue.
In a legal brief filed Monday, Justice Department lawyers asserted that the administration “does not support” a law that limits the federal definition of marriage to heterosexual couples, calling it “discriminatory” and saying that the administration “supports its repeal.”
Yet in that same brief, Justice Department lawyers ask a judge to throw out a lawsuit against the that very same law, the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA).
It is a sign that the Obama administration is feeling pressure from gay-rights groups, who say President Obama has not done enough for their cause since his inauguration. For its part, the administration appears to feel caught between its duty to defend a law that it sees as legitimate and a desire to overturn it.
In Monday’s brief, lawyers said that Congress acted reasonably when it passed the law, which not only defines marriage as being between a man and a women but also gives states the right to refuse to recognize gay marriages performed elsewhere.
“We appreciate that this brief represents progress, but it falls short of where it needs to be,” says Jennifer Pizer, senior counsel and Marriage Project Director for Lambda Legal, a gay and lesbian rights group.
Ms. Pizer and other gay rights advocates would like to see the administration back away from any defense of DOMA.
Mr. Obama said he would like to see DOMA overturned by Congress.
But he said in a statement Monday that the administration is obliged to defend lawsuits that challenge federal law.
Jurisprudence does not suggest that that is necessarily so, according to Lambda Legal. It cites eight cases since 1983 in which courts upheld an administration’s right to not defend laws passed during previous administrations.
“This list is not to suggest that the administration is completely outside of mainstream thought in deciding to defend DOMA, but just to show that [the Department of Justice] certainly does not have an absolute duty to defend,” Ms. Pizer writes in an e-mail
In Monday’s brief, the government contended that the plaintiffs in this case, a gay couple from California, have not shown that other states did not recognize their marriage or that they have been denied federal benefits.
The administration’s approach to the case has angered many in the gay-rights community. In an earlier brief – in June – Justice Department lawyers asserted that DOMA did not amount to discrimination against gay couples.
One advocate of DOMA sees the new statement within Monday’s brief as a placatory gesture with little legal significance. “The only thing that I see that has changed since June is that they are responding to the outcry that erupted from the advocates of same-sex marriage,” says Peter Sprigg, senior fellow for policy studies at the Family Research Council.
But that in itself is a disturbing development for organizations that oppose same-sex marriage. “It’s inconsistent with his stated beliefs that marriage should be a union between a man and a woman,” says Mr. Sprigg.
Lambda Legal’s Pizer says she thinks Monday’s brief has an importance beyond the political. Opponents of same-sex marriage, which is now legal in six states, have long charged that such unions are harmful to children. In Monday’s papers, the government made a firm stance against such claims.
Government lawyers said that the US “does not believe that DOMA is rationally related to any legitimate government interests in procreation and child-rearing” and supported scientific evidence “that children raised by gay and lesbian parents are as likely to be well-adjusted as children raised by heterosexual parents.”
Pizer says that she expects a bill to overturn DOMA to be introduced when Congress returns from summer recess. “There is just a different level of awareness today than 13 years ago when [DOMA] was enacted.”
Moreover, she says that two other cases against DOMA are pending. Those, says Pizer, clearly state the harm faced by same-sex couple who are denied federal benefits because of their marriage status
Monday, August 17, 2009
Women like to target men who are in Relationships
A scientific study has found evidence that women like to target men who are already in relationships.
Researchers at Oklahoma State University in the US use the term 'mate poaching' to describe this phenomenon.
During the study, they showed a picture of a moderately attractive man or woman to participants.
Half of the participants were told that the prospective mate was single, while the rest were told that they were not.
Researchers Dr Melissa Burkley and Jessica Parker observed that 90 per cent of the women participants were interested in a man when told that he was in a relationship, compared to 59 per cent when told the same man was single.
"This finding indicates that single women are considerably more interested in pursuing a man who is less available to them," the Telegraph quoted them as concluding.
"This may be because a man who is attached has already shown his ability to commit and, in a sense, has been pre-screened by another woman," they added.
The researchers also noted that men, on the other hand, expressed no preference about whether a woman was in a relationship or not.
"The results showed that only single women were more interested in pursuing an attached target rather than a single target," they said.
A research article describing the study has been published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology.
Monday, July 27, 2009
Love not enough for Marriage!
Love has no major role to play in keeping couples together. In fact, the chances of a couple staying together are affected by age, previous relationships – and smoking.
That’s the conclusion of a new study, which was conducted by researchers at the Australian National University.
To reach the conclusion, boffins spent six years monitoring 2,500 couples who were married or living together, reports The Daily Express.
The study found that money played a major factor in deciding whether a couple stand the test of time. The study, entitled What's Love Got to Do With It, showed that a quarter of partnerships and marriages will end within six years and half will be over within 25 years.
It also found that a husband who is nine or more years older than his wife is twice as likely to get divorced, as are husbands who get married before they turn 25.
Couples were twice as likely to split if the wife had a much stronger preference for children or for more of them. Smoking and drinking rates also contributed to relationship breakdown, the study found.
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Monday, July 6, 2009
What affects women's Sex life?
It’s not just age, partner’s health and interest in sex too have significant impact on sexual activity among middle-aged and elderly women, say researchers.
Among sexually inactive women, the most common reason was lack of interest in sex with 39 percent of the respondents saying the same.
Thirty-six pct said lack of a partner, 23 pct agreed to physical problem of partner while 11 pct said lack of interest by partner.
Only nine percent were inactive from personal physical problems.
According to the researchers, sexual activity was defined as any activity that was arousing, including masturbation.
"Our findings indicate that a substantial portion of women are interested and engaged in sexual activity as they age," said lead author Alison Huang, MD, assistant professor in internal medicine at the University of California, San Francisco.
"Clinicians should consider a woman's overall health when addressing concerns about sexual inactivity.
However, treatment directed solely at improving women's sexual functioning, such as medications, may not substantially affect their activity if partner issues also are not addressed," Huang added.
The study appears in Journal of the American Geriatrics Society.
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Friday, July 3, 2009
Orgasms are good for You
Girls who get lots of sexual thrills are also the most likely to hit career and health highs, claims Britain's first orgasm coach, as reported in the The Sun.
Psychologist Lisa Turner, below, says the right type of orgasm will "massively increase your energy."
Studies suggest that 28 per cent of women rarely, or never, achieve full orgasm, and many resort to faking it - as Meg Ryan did in that famous When Harry Met Sally scene.
But the real thing won't just help your sex life, Lisa says good orgasms also boost health and concentration and help women perform better at work, reports The Sun.
The clitoral orgasm "In the past it was not recognised that women needed clitoral stimulation in order to achieve orgasm.
Now this is commonly appreciated but often to the detriment to the other kinds of orgasms that women can achieve."
The Vaginal Orgasm "This type involves the "G" spot and other highly sensitive areas that are inside the vagina. These orgasms are very different and can be either more or less intense physically, but energetically they raise your energy rather than deplete it."
Multiple Orgasms "Where you stay at the height of sexual excitement such that you have a series of orgasms one after another. just like a string of pearls."
The Full Body Orgasm "These are rare in most women. Not because they are difficult to achieve. With the right training, and practice anyone can achieve a full body orgasm - including men.
These can go on for anything up to 30 minutes, although several minutes is more usual.
She says the most common block to ultimate enjoyment is past trauma, or an inability to let go.
Monday, June 29, 2009
Sex can stop a cold & Diabetes
A healthy sex drive will leave you peaking in more ways than one. People who have a lot of nookie experience health benefits which can leave them in much better physical form than those who don't. Sex can help fight flab, ward off colds and make you live longer, as reported in The Sun.
According to Jennifer Bass, of sex research centre The Kinsey Institute, "There is definitely a correlation between health and sex. If you are healthier, you are going to have more sex. "Making love provides a cardiovascular workout and floods the body with feel-good chemicals."
Longer life
Sex is associated with good health and a longer life, a survey by the American Association of Retired Persons reveals.
Almost half of over-50s - 44 per cent - who described their health as excellent or very good had intercourse at least once a week.
But just 20 per cent of those with only fair or poor health made love this often.
It could be due to dehydroepiandrosterone - DHEA - which floods the body during sex and surges on orgasm.
Bloodstream levels of this hormone are five times higher than normal when sexual pleasure peaks. DHEA has been shown to be beneficial in fighting reduced insulin response and middle-age spread.
Blood pressure
In the heat of the hump, sex increases blood pressure but in the long run it reduces it - cutting the risk of stroke, says The Sun.
A study in Biological Psychology says regular sex lowers diastolic blood pressure - the lower number that shows the reading when your heart is resting.
Satisfying sex also increases output of the chemical transmitter dopamine, which improves relaxation and counteracts stress hormones associated with hypertension.
Low libido can also be an early warning of blood pressure problems. Doctors know that men who have hypertension are likely to have erectile dysfunction.
And Greek researchers recently discovered it has an even greater impact on women.
Four out of ten with high blood pressure go off sex, compared to three in ten men.
Combats diabetes
The exercise and calorie burning benefits of sex help reduce Type 2 diabetes risk.
A study in the Journal of the American Medical Association reported that DHEA, released when we orgasm, improves insulin action. It also combats central obesity.
Carrying weight around the stomach is a known risk factor for diabetes because the flab releases hormones called adipokines that seem to impair the body's glucose tolerance. Animal studies show DHEA protects against this damage too.
Heart boost
Men who have sex less than once a month are twice as likely to have a fatal heart attack than men who make love at least twice a week.
Sun GP Dr Carol Cooper says: "Sex is great for the cardiovascular system but how much you get out depends on how much effort you put in.
Bonking three times a week could halve the risk of stroke
"If it's not getting your heart racing, you're doing it wrong.
"Patients with heart problems sometimes worry about dying on the job, but that's very rare. If you can manage two flights of stairs you are probably fit enough for sex."
Because it boosts circulation, sex increases the supply of oxygen to cells and stimulates the activity of various organs and systems within the body.
Erectile dysfunction can also indicate cardiovascular problems.
Weight control
Sun fitness expert Nicki Waterman says: "Just 30 minutes of sex will burn around 200 calories, so if you have sex five days a week, that's equivalent to two-and-a-half hours in the gym.
"For best results, women can hop on top because this will help firm their thighs and tone their belly."
An orgasm can burn 60-100 calories, 30 minutes of snogging will blitz 90 calories.
And orgasms release both enkephalins and dopamine. These feel-good body chemicals help to reduce levels of the stress hormone cortisol which is associated with weight gain, particularly around the tummy.
They also flood the body with DHEA, which attacks belly fat, according to researchers at Washington Univeristy School of Medicine. Volunteers were given 50mg of DHEA and a second group took a dummy pill.
Women lost 10.2 per cent of their abdominal fat and men lost 7.4 per cent.
(As reported in The Sun)
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Wednesday, June 24, 2009
Heavy Women have bad relationships
Heavier women are more likely to have a lower quality relationship, but the same is not true for men, according to a latest study.
Dr Janet D Latner, a professor of Psychology at the University of Hawaii and her colleagues examined body image, weight, romantic relationships and differences between men and women.
The study suggested that heavier women had lower quality relationships, which they predicted were more likely to end. They also partnered with less desirable men and believed that their partners would rate them as less warm/trustworthy.
Furthermore, the partners of heavier women rated these women's bodies less positively and judged them as poorer matches to their ideal partners for attractiveness. In general, for heavier men, similar findings were not reported.
Dr Latner said: "Prejudice and discrimination are commonly directed at overweight individuals. However, few previous studies have examined whether weight stigma occurs within established romantic relationships. Our results suggest it does."
Friday, June 19, 2009
Smell of rotten eggs turns on Men
Rotten eggs might not be welcomed in a woman's kitchen, but they can prove really useful under bed sheets, suggests a new study which found the smell of decaying eggs could make men randy.
According to research that could lead to new impotence treatments, the chemical behind the smell of rotten eggs helps men become aroused.
A gas called hydrogen sulphide – also released when eggs rot and from the exhausts of cars with catalytic converters – is given out by men just before they have sex.
Following the study, researchers believe that it could be used to create a rival to Viagra.
"We found that hydrogen sulphide is involved in human penile erection," The Telegraph quoted Professor Giuseppe Cirino of the University of Naples Federico II, as telling The Independent.
"The hydrogen sulphide pathway represents a new therapeutic target for erectile dysfunction and it should be possible in future to deliver drugs that either deliver hydrogen sulphide or that control the hydrogen sulphide production," the expert added.
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Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Tape trap, your Sex tips
The decision of couples to shoot their moments of intimacy can be a risky affair and hence requires major precautions.
Talk of sex videos and one is reminded of the infamous Night in Paris clip that depicted Holly A-lister Paris Hilton and her then-boyfriend Rick Salomon engaging in sexual relations. Or it is the supermodel Kate Moss and her druggie beau Pete Doherty engaged in foreplay. While Holly world is replete of such tales, back home the Ashmit Patel-Riya Sen MMS video or Shahid Kapur-Kareena Kapoor clips have created ruckus. And it isn't just the rich and famous who indulge in this risky passion but an average Joe, too, enjoys the filming process as much.
The kick factor
Making sex videos is increasingly getting popular with the new-age couples. Most of the couples — married or not, tape their most intimate moments and the reason can be attributed to the fact that it involves thrill, joy and excitement of seeing themselves indulging in sexual activities.
And it ain't wrong entirely. According to Dr Samir Parikh, psychiatrist, Max Hospital, "Sex videos can be used for improving sexual lives. Watching the video at a later part can give couples new ideas for experimenting while they have sex next time."
Be safe
But what one really needs to work on is the safety of such videos. Says Dr Amitabh Shah, consultant psychiatrist, Vimhans, "One should make sure that the tape is kept secretly where no body can assess it and if possible it should be deleted. Also couple should not boast about the fact that they have made such videos in front of friends because that can create unnecessary curiosity. Under no circumstances should one upload it on the Net or have a copy of it on the computer or cell phone."
And what if a couple decides to go separate ways? In such a situation the videos can be a cause of concern for both the partners. To this Shah offers, "Both the partners should communicate with each other and if possible destroy the videos before it becomes a bigger problem."
Here's what the celebs have to say:
Suchitra Pillai, actress
I would say it is foolish to tape your intimate moments, as you never know how anyone can misuse it. You can't trust anybody on that. And if somebody finds it that you can be in a big trouble.
Manpreet Brar, former model
Personally, I will never tape my private moments. And I think that those who do that should be very careful and cautious so that they do not end up in a problem. Especially, the younger lot as they are most prone to this and they are the one who need to be sensible.
Aryan Vaid, model-actor
As long as the video is for watching just by the two of them, it's ok. The problem arises when it is leaked as no one wants the public to see what they are up to in their private moments.
Have safe sex (video)
Here are some wacky ideas that can help you from being trapped
Wear a mask
Masks are no longer for Mardi Gras and parties. Before you appear in a sex tape, conceal your identity with a stylish mask.
Talk with an accent
Whether you choose to be a southern belle, or an English tart, faking an accent is a great way to maintain anonymity.
Create a pseudonym
No one will ever believe the person on screen is you if he/she has a different name. Think about it.
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