An orgasm a day keeps illnesses away

Women who regularly have orgasms are more energetic and suffer fewer illnesses than females who are left wanting more after sex sessions, says a new research.

According to a team from the Women''s Health programme in Australia, females who rate their sex lives highly have more vitality and a better psychological outlook than those who have sex less than twice a month.

Researchers analysed sex lives of almost 300 females aged from 20 to 65 to reach the conclusion.

Lead researcher Dr Sonia Davison, of the Women''s Health Program at Monash University, Australia, said: "We found that women who were sexually dissatisfied had lower well-being and vitality.

"This finding highlights the importance of addressing these areas as an essential part of healthcare, because women may be uncomfortable discussing these issues with their doctor."

As over 90 percent of women in the study reported their sexual activity involved a partner, and was initiated by the partner at least 50 percent of the time, the sexual activity of the women may have been affected by partner presence (or absence), partner health, and sexual function, which were not addressed in the study.

"The fact that women who self-identified as being dissatisfied maintained the level of sexual activity reported most likely represents established behaviour and partner expectation," said Professor Susan Davis, senior author of this study, also based at the Women''s Health Program at Monash University, Australia.

"It also reinforces the fact that frequency of sexual activity in women cannot be employed as a reliable indicator of sexual well-being,” the expert added.

Sexual medicine expert Dr Irwin Goldstein said: "This emphasises the role and importance of sexual health in women''s overall health and well-being."

The study has been published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine.

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Girls love it when men use cheesy lines

The next time you approach a girl, do not hesitate to try out a cheesy chat-up line because girls absolutely love it, for they give a glimpse of a man''s sense of humour.

According to a study, six out of 10 ladies are more likely to fall for a man if he breaks the ice with a light-hearted one-liner.

Conducted by www.OnePoll.com, the survey, which questioned 4,000 adults, revealed that four out of 10 women were still dating or were married to a man who first approached them with a funny quip.

However, not every line can do the trick for you-it was found that there are do''s and don''ts in the dating game as well.

Lines such as "Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?", and "Apart from being beautiful, what do you do for a living?" worked "most of the time".

But "Do you have a map? Because I keep getting lost in your eyes" and "Is there a rainbow, because you''re the treasure I''ve been searching for," were likely to end up in red-faced failure for being "too over the top".

The study found that seven out of 10 women like being chatted up while out with friends as it gives their confidence a boost - as long as the potential suitor is good looking.

"Women like a guy with a sense of humour and a cheesy chat-up line is a good way of displaying that," the Daily Express quoted a spokesman for www.OnePoll.com, as saying

"To fire off a good chat-up line at a pretty girl the man will have to be pretty confident too, and women like confident men.

"At the very worst you''re probably going to get a smile and a polite ''sorry, I''m not interested'', but it seems there are some lines which actually work very well indeed.

"These are the ones which are light-hearted and quite clever and well thought out. It''s the really awful ones which are going to end up with a bloke having egg on his face in front of his mates," he added.

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Women who feel good about organs likely to orgasm

Women who feel "positive" about their genitals feel more relaxed in their own skin and find it easier to orgasm. They are also more likely to engage in sexual health promoting behaviours, says a new study.

These women go in for regular gynaecological checks-ups or performing self-examinations, says the study by the Centre for Sexual Health Promotion (CSHP), Indiana University.

"When women feel more positively about their genitals, they likely feel more relaxed in their own skin, more able to let go and thus more likely to experience pleasure and orgasm," said Debby Herbenick, associate director at the CSHP.

"These are important findings about body image," says Herbnick. "Our culture often portrays women's genitals as dirty and in need of cleaning and grooming."

"Some women may have had greater exposure to such negative messages or may be more susceptible to their impact," adds Herbenick.

"Women are often more critical about their own bodies -- and other women bodies -- than men are," Herbenick said.

"What we found in this study is that men generally feel positive about a variety of aspects of women genitals including how they look, smell, taste and feel," she says.

Herbenick's study, which involved 362 women and 241 men, most of whom were white and aged between 18 and 23 years, created a scale for measuring both the gender's attitudes toward women genitals, according to a CSHP release.

Such a scale, she wrote, could be useful in sex therapy, in medical settings to help better understand decision-making that goes into gynaecological care and treatment, and in health education settings involving women and their sexual health.

Herbenick, also a sexual health educator for The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction, offers the following suggestions regarding the findings:

Body image: Parents might consider how they can help their daughters to feel more positively about their bodies, such as by teaching them accurate names for their body parts, including their genitals (e.g., "vulva" rather than "down there") and responding in supportive ways to their self-exploration.

"Rather than saying, 'don't touch down there -- it's dirty,' parents might let their children know that it's OK for them to touch their genitals, but in private spaces such as their own bedroom or the bathroom," Herbenick said.

Ads and marketing: Health educators might consider ways that they can teach women and men about their bodies in positive ways by openly discussing how some products or marketing campaigns make people feel about their bodies.

These findings were published in the September issue of the International Journal of Sexual Health.

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Breastfeeding With Flat or Inverted Nip-ples

What are flat or inverted nipples, and how can you tell if you have them?

* Most women have nipples that stand out from the areola. Some, however, have nipples that don't stand out, or even go in. These are flat or inverted nipples.
* Even if you have flat or inverted nipples, you might have no trouble breastfeeding. There is a simple test you can use to check this.

Checking for inverted or flat nipples:

* Do not perform this test before the third trimester (6 months to the end) of pregnancy. Up to 35% of women may have flat or inverted nipples before pregnancy. But great breast changes take place during pregnancy in preparation for breastfeeding. Your breasts enlarge as they develop milk glands. Your areola darkens and enlarges; some people think this darkened areola serves as a visual target for the nursing baby. Your flat or inverted nipples may start protruding. If they do, you'll have nothing to worry about.
* During your third trimester, check your nipples. If you have nipples that are flat or inverted, do the following:
o See if they remain flat or inverted when stimulated. Put some cool water on them (not ice; you don't need to torture yourself!). Tickle them a little bit. If you happen to have a breastpump around, pump for a few seconds. If you don't have a breastpump, you can ask your mate to help. If your nipples protrude as a result of this and remain protruded for some time, then you'll have nothing to worry about.
o Put your thumb and finger on the areola just a little behind the nipple. Squeeze gently. If this causes your nipple to protrude, you have nothing to worry about.
o If your nipple remains flat or becomes even more inverted when you squeeze the areola, then you should start preparing them for breastfeeding.



How to prepare flat or inverted nipples for breastfeeding:

* Start these exercises during the third trimester of pregnancy.
* Wear breast shells. Follow the manufacturer's recommendations.
o You might need to wear a larger bra to accommodate the nipple shield. If so, buy a couple of nursing bras. Your breasts will enlarge even further during the early stages of breastfeeding, so you'll probably need those larger bras anyway.
* There are also some other exercises that you can do. Stop doing them, however, if they hurt or discomfort you. You don't want to damage the sensitive breast tissue.
o Gently pull and roll your nipple between your thumb and finger. You can do this for several minutes a day. If it hurts or is uncomfortable, don't do it!
o Put your thumb and finger on the areola behind the nipple. Push slightly in towards your ribcage. Slowly slide your thumb and finger out to the edge of the areola. You can do this for several minutes a day. If it hurts or is uncomfortable, don't do it!





After your baby is born:

* Latching on might be more difficult than with protruding nipples. Usually, however, there is no real problem.
* You should be especially strict about avoiding bottles and pacifiers if you have flat or inverted nipples. Bottles and pacifiers can cause nipple confusion in any baby. The risk is especially high if you have flat or inverted nipples.
* See if your baby manages to latch on correctly. If your baby is showing signs of feeding well, and you don't experience sore nipples or persistent breast engorgement, everything is fine.
* If your baby is having difficulty latching on, or you have sore nipples, then you might need to prime your nipples before nursing each time:
o You can wear your breast shells for a few minutes before nursing, and remove them just before attaching your baby.
o You can pump with a breastpump for a few seconds just before nursing your baby. Stop just as the milk starts to come out.
o You can use your nipple tickling and rolling exercises for a few seconds before nursing.
o All these exercises help the baby latch on by making the nipple stand out.
* IMPORTANT: do not use nipple shields while nursing your baby. Some older books may recommend these. However, they are best avoided as they cause the baby to latch on incorrectly. This may lead to sore (or even cracked and bleeding) nipples, severe breast engorgement or mastitis in the short run and insufficient milk in the long run. Don't use them!
* If you seem to have serious or persistent problem, call a certified lactation consultant. It costs a little money, but it's definitely worth it. Just one visit from a lactation consultant can make the difference between a miserable and a delightful breastfeeding experience.
* If your baby is not latching on properly, watch out for insufficient weight gain. This need not stop you from breastfeeding if you take a few precautions while you tide over the difficult period. See the page on maintaining or increasing your milk supply for more information on this.

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Here's what women want (Make Relations With Women Tips)

The next time you approach a girl, do not hesitate to try out a cheesy chat-up line because girls absolutely love it, for they give a glimpse of a man's sense of What women wanthumour.

According to a study, six out of 10 ladies are more likely to fall for a man if he breaks the ice with a light-hearted one-liner. Conducted by www.OnePoll.com, the survey, which questioned 4,000 adults, revealed that four out of 10 women were still dating or were married to a man who first approached them with a funny quip. However, not every line can do the trick for you-it was found that there are do's and don'ts in the dating game as well.

Lines such as "Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?", and "Apart from being beautiful, what do you do for a living?" worked "most of the time". But "Do you have a map? Because I keep getting lost in your eyes" and "Is there a rainbow, because you're the treasure I've been searching for," were likely to end up in red-faced failure for being "too over the top".

The study found that seven out of 10 women like being chatted up while out with friends as it gives their confidence a boost - as long as the potential suitor is good looking.

"Women like a guy with a sense of humour and a cheesy chat-up line is a good way of displaying that," the Daily Express quoted a spokesman for www.OnePoll.com, as saying. "To fire off a good chat-up line at a pretty girl the man will have to be pretty confident too, and women like confident men. At the very worst you're probably going to get a smile and a polite ''sorry, I''m not interested'', but it seems there are some lines which actually work very well indeed.

"These are the ones which are light-hearted and quite clever and well thought out. It''s the really awful ones which are going to end up with a bloke having egg on his face in front of his mates," he added.

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Here's what hampers 'safe sex'

A Sydney-based gynaecologist is urging people not to be shy about discussing contraception with their partners because it can hamper safe sex.

Andrew Zuchsmann, from the Royal Australian and New Zealand College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists, believes that good sex should start with a mirror and some quiet time at home alone.

A new national survey of more than 1000 people has revealed about 63 percent of men and 52 percent of women still refuse to mention contraception in the heat of the moment.

And this is despite soaring rates of sexually transmitted diseases, and lots of money being spent on education campaigns.

‘‘Australia has one of the highest rates of chlamydia in the world, yet people are still not asking about contraception,’’ the Sydney Morning Herald quoted Zuchsmann as saying.

He said that a few minutes spent practising a role-play conversation with a mirror could boost confidence, prevent unwanted pregnancies, and protect future reproductive capacity.

‘‘Often with these encounters it’s a one-night stand where alcohol is involved so getting a repertoire rehearsed and being properly informed before you are in the moment is vital," he said.

The RSVP online dating site and the pharmaceutical company Schering-Plough carried out the survey in July. It showed that more than 90 percent of respondents were aware condoms could protect against sexually transmitted infections.

"Awareness needs to translate into action,’’ said Zuchsmann.

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Sex Tips: How to Finger A Girl

There’s a real, hot sexiness to being able to bring your woman to a climax by just using your fingers.

Consider the fact that her body is – literally – under the command of your fingers and that you are able to WATCH her intently as you bring her to writhing pleasure.

Now, isn’t that sexy and hot?

Here are some tips on how to finger a girl:
Pre-Fingering Foreplay

Surprisingly, not all women like to be fingered by their lovers. This can be due to many reasons such as issues about hygiene, trust and may be even fear.

If your partner has some of these issues, it may be wise to pre-discuss the topic of fingering beforehand just to ensure that she’s at least open to the idea of it happening. Otherwise, you can slowly introduce fingering as you make love.

But before that, here’s rule No. 1: engage in foreplay! Foreplay ensures that you and your partner are in the right sexual frame of mind and body needs, making her just possibly a bit more open to being fingered.
Explore The Landscape Gently

If this is your first time to finger her, then ensure that you do everything you can to avoid any hang ups. For instance, ensure that your nails are cut and that your hands are clean (takes care of the issue of hygiene).

But more importantly, be gentle in your finger exploration. A woman’s body is all warmness and softness, right? As such, don’t go in there like an excited teenager. Instead, be respectful of her body as you go in and explore.

Also, using your fingers to simulate a woman’s genitals is not just about insertion. Be sure you pay attention to her labia (genital lips) and clitoris too.
Experiment With Different Textures, Pressures, And Movements

Not all parts of a woman’s genital area can be stimulated in the exact same way. For instance, a lot of women like their labia to be gently caressed, their clitoris to be rubbed and their G-spots to be tapped.

Now – again – not all women are the same so find the right combination that your lover finds the most sexually stimulating. And of course, as you try all these different sexual stimulation combos, don’t forget to pay attention to her! Moaning is good, jerking is not.
Time Is Of No Consequence

Don’t go about fingering your woman with a certain time frame in mind. You may ‘hit the jackpot’ right away, maybe not. Just give both yourselves time to get used to the different sensations. This is actually one of those times when the journey is as good as the destination.
How To Deal With Fingering Fatigue
How To Deal With Fingering Fatigue

In the course of your exploration, you might find yourself getting a tad tired but don’t give up and especially, don’t just stop and leave your lover in the cold! If you’re feeling a bit tired, try any of these: switch hands if you can, stop finger stimulation and go oral for a few minutes, stop finger stimulation and use a sex toy for a while, and others.
More Tips on How To Finger A Girl

1. Lube, anyone? Finger stimulation works best if your partner is really wet. If not, ensure you have a healthy backup of lube ready for use.
2. Learn and be a voyeur at the same time. Not sure how to please her down there? If so, ask her to masturbate in front of you so that you learn how to pleasure her exactly the way she wants it.
3. Learn when to stop. As you become more and more enthralled about bringing your lover to an orgasm just by using your fingers, it’s equally important to know when to stop trying. Too much friction can actually numb her genitals and when that occurs, reaching a climax is almost next to impossible so better stop now… and start again another day.
4. Learn effective fingering techniques! Head over to the link below to learn 2 step-by-step “Advanced Fingering Techniques” to bring your lover to multiple escalating orgasms.

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Senior sex: Tips for older men

* Communicate with your partner. Open discussion of sex has become more common in recent years, but many older adults come from a generation where sex remains a taboo subject. But openly talking about your needs, desires and concerns with your partner can make you closer and help you both enjoy sex and intimacy more.
* Talk to your doctor. Talking about sexual issues with your doctor can help you maintain a healthy sex life as you age. Your doctor can help you manage chronic conditions and medications that affect your sex life. Some older men have trouble maintaining an erection or reaching orgasm. Your doctor may be able to prescribe medications or other treatments for these problems.
* Expand your definition of sex. Intercourse is only one way to have fulfilling sex. Touching, kissing and other intimate sexual contact can be just as rewarding for both you and your partner. Realize that as you age, it's normal for you and your partner to have different sexual abilities and needs. Be open to finding new ways to enjoy sexual contact and intimacy.
* Change your routine. Simple changes can improve your sex life. Change the time of day when you have sex to a time when you have the most energy. Try the morning — when you're refreshed from a good night's sleep — rather than at the end of a long day. Because it might take longer for you or your partner to become aroused, take more time to set the stage for romance, such as a romantic dinner or an evening of dancing. Try a new sexual position or explore other new ways of connecting romantically and sexually.
* Seek a partner if you're single. It's never too late for romance. It can be difficult starting a relationship after the loss of a partner or being single for a long time — but socializing is well worth the effort for many single seniors. No one ever outgrows the need for emotional closeness and intimate love. If you start an intimate relationship with a new partner, be sure to practice safe sex. Many older adults are unaware that they are still at risk of sexually transmitted diseases, such as AIDS.
* Stay healthy. Eating regular nutritious meals, staying active, not drinking too much alcohol, and not smoking or using illicit drugs are important for your overall health, and staying healthy can help your sexual performance. Follow your doctor's instructions for taking medications and managing any chronic health conditions.
* Stay positive. The changes that come with aging — from health problems to changes in appearance and sexual performance — leave many men feeling less attractive or feeling they're less capable of enjoying or giving sexual pleasure. Discussing your feelings with your partner can help. Feeling angry, unhappy or depressed has a strong negative impact on your sex life. Professional counseling or other treatment can improve your sex life — and your well-being.

Sex may not be the same for you or your partner as it was when you both were young. But by adapting to your changing body, sex and intimacy can continue to be a fulfilling and rewarding part of your life.

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Turkey burger named after Michelle Obama

There is a new burger in town, made of turkey, and it has Michelle Obama's name on it. The "Michelle Melt" at Good Stuff Eatery was unveiled on Thursday by chef Spike Mendelsohn, a former contestant on Bravo television's Top Chef competition. He developed it in collaboration with White House chef Sam Kass, who previously cooked for the Obama family in Chicago.

What makes a turkey burger qualify as a "Michelle Melt?" Fresh, organic, locally grown ingredients that promote healthier eating, and the same herbs that are found in the White House garden started by Mrs Obama.

The recipe: free range turkey burger, caramelized onions, Swiss cheese, ruby red tomato, crisp lettuce, South Lawn herb garden mayonnaise, freshly baked wheat bun.

Mendelsohn plans to donate proceeds from the burger's sale to an organization that distributes food to homeless people.

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Sexuality of Teenage Girls

Teenage girls are some of the most interesting groups of people in society. There is so much to say about them and, let us begin with understanding what being a teenage girl is all about. Teenage girls are girls who are in the process of becoming adults. This is a stage filled with changes and many of them are not just physical but, they are mental and psychological. It is pretty interesting to analyze teenage girls because they are so unpredictable. The greatest change they go through is the mental and emotional change. It is from the brain that the girls start to act differently. Of course all the changes are linked together and, it is hard to divorce them. Some of the physical changes that teens undergo are development of their sexual organs. This is where they start to feel their first sexual impulses and, it can prove to be very strange. For this reason. Teenage girls want to explore what sex is all about and they end up experimenting. Statistics have stated that half of all teenagers in the United States are sexually active and this is very strange compared to the past.

With the onset of modernization, teens are becoming more and more aware as their knowledge increases. They are also becoming more and more confident in the issue of sex. Therefore, it is no wonder of teenagers having sex nowadays. Teens will tend to have some form of rebellion during this stage. This is mainly because they are confused about life and they are not yet adults. They are also too old to be considered children. This can indeed prove to be a very lonely period and the only people they can really on identify with are other peers. Sex during teenage has a lot of implications and, it is not enough to tell all teens to abstain. In other words, abstinence has proved to be a failure when it comes to the best course of action against all looming implications of sex. Church leaders and other older people are of the mind that teens should not be having sex in the first place.

But, the other school of thought is that this concern is not very realistic. There has been commercialization of sex and what the teens have grown up watching has had a very huge impact on them. The reality is that, not all teen girls will want to abstain from sex. Therefore, it is vital to explore all other aspects and make sure that the teens are safe. There is much importance to ensure that information on how to have safe sex is put out there. With choices, the teen girls can make a wise decision and, if they cannot abstain, it is better to preserve their health. Sex is the most important topic that any parent with a teenager should focus on. Let them know what the consequences are and how they can make informed decisions.

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More than half committed Aussies engaged in cyber sex: study

More than half of all people who engaged in online sex were married or in a serious relationship, and some people were doing it as much as 10 hours a day, Australian research showed on Thursday.

The typical participant was a well-educated man with an average age of 41 years who preferred to look at sexual images rather than engage in interactive-type chat, the Swinburne University of Technology found.

Of the study's 1,325 subjects, 55 per cent said they were married or considered themselves to be in a serious relationship, said lead researcher Marcus Squirrell.

And 65 per cent of people who had some form of online sexual contact with someone said they went on to meet them in real life, Squirrell said.

Many used sites to explore their sexuality in a safe environment, but some developed serious addictions to online sex, he added.

"These people are putting so much energy into cybersex -- in some cases up to 10 hours per day -- that it is detracting from their relationship with their partner," he told national newswire AAP.

"It can also adversely affect other areas of their lives, such as their education and employment."

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Avoid heart disease by following healthy diet: Expert

t least 80 per cent of deaths due to heart disease and stroke could be avoided by following a healthy diet, a renowned cardiac consultant said.

"By 2015 almost 20 million people in the world will die due to cardiovascular disease. At least 80 per cent of premature deaths from heart disease and stroke could be avoided through a healthy diet and a change in lifestyle," Dr Rony Mathew, Consultant and Head of Department of Interventioal Cardiology, Lisie Heart Institute and Hospital here said.

"Most people spend about 60 per cent of their day at work, so health choices in the workplace are critical for overall wellness," Dr Jacob Joseph, a Cardiac Consultant, said.

"A diet low in saturated fat and rich in fruits and vegetables combined with regular physical activity can lower the risk of heart disease," Dr Jabir Abdullah Kutty, a Cardiac Consultant, Lisie Heart Institute said.

Creating awareness among the people on the need of a "healthy heart", various programmes were planned by hospitals in the city on the 'World Heart Day', which is annually held on the last Sunday in September.

The advances in treatment methods in cardiology are worth appreciated, but equal importance should be given to the preventive aspects too, Dr Jose Chacko, Chairman, Heart Care Foundation, said.

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Where Does Sex Live in the Brain? From Top to Bottom.

Neuroscientists explore the mind's sexual side and discover that desire is not quite what we thought it was.

On April 11, 1944, a doctor named T. C. Erickson addressed the Chicago Neurological Society about a patient he called Mrs. C. W. At age 43 she had started to wake up many nights feeling as if she were having sex—or as she put it to Erickson, feeling “hot all over.” As the years passed her hot spells struck more often, even in the daytime, and began to be followed by seizures that left her unable to speak. Erickson examined Mrs. C. W. when she was 54 and diagnosed her with nymphomania. He prescribed a treatment that was shockingly common at the time: He blasted her ovaries with X-rays.

Despite the X-rays, Mrs. C. W.’s seizures became worse, leaving her motionless and feeling as if an egg yolk were running down her throat. Erickson began to suspect that her sexual feelings were emanating not from her ovaries but from her head. Doctors opened up her skull and discovered a slow-growing tumor pressing against her brain. After the tumor was removed and Mrs. C. W. recovered, the seizures faded. “When asked if she still had any ‘passionate spells,’” Erickson recounted, “she said, ‘No, I haven’t had any; they were terrible things.’”

Mrs. C. W.’s experience was rare but not unique. In 1969 two Florida doctors wrote to the journal Neurology about a patient who experienced similar spells of passion. She would beat both hands on her chest and order her husband to satisfy her. Usually the woman would come to with no memory of what had just happened, but sometimes she would fall to the floor in a seizure. Her doctors diagnosed her with epilepsy, probably brought on by the damage done to parts of her brain by a case of syphilis. More recently, in 2004, doctors in Taiwan described a woman who complained of orgasms that swept over her when she brushed her teeth. Shame kept her silent for years, until her episodes also caused her to lose consciousness. When the doctors examined her, they diagnosed her with epilepsy as well, caused by a small patch of damaged brain tissue.

Each of these stories contains a small clue about the enigmatic neuroscience of sex. A hundred years ago Sigmund Freud argued that sexual desire was the primary motivating energy in human life. Psychologists and sociologists have since mapped the vast variations in human sexuality. Today pharmaceutical companies make billions bringing new life to old sex organs. But for all the attention that these fields of research have lavished on sex, neuroscientists have lagged far behind. What little they knew came from rare cases such as Mrs. C. W.’s.

The case studies do make a couple of things clear. For starters, they demonstrate that sexual pleasure is not just a simple set of reflexes in the body. After all, epileptic bursts of electricity in the brain alone can trigger everything from desire to ecstasy. The clinical examples also point to the parts of the brain that may be involved in sexual experiences. In 2007 cognitive neuroscientist Stephanie Ortigue of Syracuse University and psychiatrist Francesco Bianchi-Demicheli of the Geneva University Psychiatric Center reviewed the case of Mrs. C. W. and 19 other instances of spontaneous orgasms. In 80 percent of them, doctors pinpointed epilepsy in the temporal lobe.

The temporal lobe is still a big piece of real estate, though. To zoom in on the regions associated with sexuality, neuroscientists needed to scan people’s brains while they were having sex-related thoughts. But using brain scans to study sex is not easy. Most brain imaging technology works the way cameras did in the 19th century: If you want a clear picture, you have to hold very still. Even then, brain scans provide meaningful information only in carefully designed experiments. If you want to find the parts of the brain that are crucial for reading, for instance, you can’t just take pictures of people’s brains as they read; the visual cortex carries out many functions other than reading. Scientists therefore have to craft experiments that allow them to compare what happens to brains during reading with what happens when people look at random strings of letters or checkerboard patterns. The same precision is required to study sex in the brain.

As a result, the first imaging studies of sex in the brain have appeared only in the past few years. Serge Stoléru, a neuroscientist at Pierre and Marie Curie University in France, published one on sexual desire in 2003. He and his colleagues showed a series of pictures and films—some erotic, some ordinary—to 15 men. To record the activity in the subjects’ brains, the scientists used PET scans: They injected radioactive tracers into the volunteers and then tracked how the tracers moved in the brain. The radioactive signal accumulated in areas where neurons became active, as their energy was replenished by the surrounding blood vessels.

Eight of the men were ordinary, sexually speaking. The other seven suffered from hypoactive sexual desire disorder. People with this condition rarely experience sexual desires or fantasies. Stoléru and his colleagues found clear-cut differences between the two groups. In particular, a patch of neurons near the front of the brain—a region called the medial orbitofrontal cortex—was active in the desire-impaired men but quiet in the normal ones. Among its jobs, the medial orbitofrontal cortex keeps our emotions from getting out of control. Perhaps men with hypoactive sexual desire disorder couldn’t feel desire because their brains were keeping their emotions bottled up.

Unfortunately, PET scans take several minutes to capture a single image. A lot can happen in that time, especially when sex is involved. So Stoléru and other scientists have switched to a faster method, functional MRI (fMRI), which monitors the flow of blood to active neurons by measuring levels of oxygen in the brain. This technique can capture an image of the working brain in just a couple of seconds and locate areas of activity down to a millimeter or so—about one-twentieth of an inch.

The parts of the brain that light up during sexual experiences are associated with some of our most sophisticated forms of thought.

Using fMRI, scientists have pinpointed a number of regions of the brain that kick in when people feel sexual desire. As expected, several of them are in the temporal lobe. One of those regions, the amygdala, orchestrates powerful emotions. Another, the hippocampus, manages our memories. It may become active as we associate sights and smells with past sexual experiences. But despite what Freud thought, sexual experiences are not just a matter of primal emotions and associations. The parts of the brain that light up in the fMRI scans include regions that are associated with some of our most sophisticated forms of thought. The anterior insula, for instance, is what we use to reflect on the state of our own bodies (to be aware of the sensation of butterflies in the stomach, say, or of lightness in the head). Brain regions that are associated with understanding the thoughts and intentions of other people also seem linked with sexual feelings.

Even fMRI studies are not fast enough to catch the flow of activity, however. They cannot tell us which regions of the brain become active first, which later. So Ortigue and Bianchi-Demicheli are updating one of the oldest brain-monitoring technologies. For decades scientists have taped electrodes onto people’s scalps to record their brain activity and create a readout called an electroencephalogram, or EEG. In the past this approach offered a blurry picture of what was going on in the subject’s brain. An electrode on the scalp can pick up electrical activity only after it has spread beyond the skull, getting weakened and smeared along the way. But the EEG process is fast; it can capture 1,000 snapshots a second.

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Women drink before sex due to lack of confidence

Millions of British women indulge in boozing before having sex – because they lack confidence in their bodies, a study of 3,000 females has revealed.

Researchers examining the link between sexual habits and alcohol consumption found that half preferred sex after a tipple.

Women said alcohol helped them lose their inhibitions and become more adventurous between the sheets, reports The Daily Express.

Kathryn Lakeland of Femfresh, which carried out the study, said: "These results are a clear indication that British women today are severely lacking in confidence.

"Whilst many women claim they only drink before sex because it is part of the dating process, a large percentage will actually refuse to get between the sheets without a bit of Dutch courage.

"But in doing so many women will be losing self control and this is when drunken one-night stands are more likely to occur."

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Nak-ed mole rats may offer cancer cure

Rochester University researchers believe that naked mole rats may help provide cure for cancer. The bald rats never get cancer, and if their trick can be copied it could help humans resist cancer too, claim Andrei Seluanov and Vera Gorbunova.

However, culturing the naked mole rat cells in the lab is almost impossible, which made researchers wonder if this might be linked to their ability to resist cancer.

The study researchers found that a dilute solution of naked mole rat skin cells did start to proliferate, but stopped once the cells reached a certain, relatively low density.

Such "contact inhibition" is also used by human cells to inhibit growth, but cancer bypasses this mechanism so cells keep growing, reports New Scientist.

The researchers also found that contact inhibition in naked mole rats is controlled by two genes, p16 and p27, while in humans it is primarily controlled by p27.

"Naked mole rats have an additional barrier in the way of tumour progression," says Seluanov.

If this check could be stimulated in humans, it could halt the growth of cancerous tumours.

The findings were presented at the Strategies for Engineered Negligible Senescence meeting in Cambridge, UK, last week.

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Chandrayaan-1 finds water on moon: Report

India's first lunar mission, has found evidence of large quantities of water on its surface, a leading newspaper reported on Thursday.

Data from the spacecraft also suggests water is still being formed on the moon, the British newspaper said.

"It's very satisfying," the
newspaper quoted Mylswamy Annadurai, the mission's project director at the Indian Space Research Organisation in Bangalore, as saying.

The newspaper said the breakthrough would be announced by the US National Aeronautics and Space Administration on Thursday.

NASA's website says it will hold a media briefing at 1440 EDT on September 24 to "reveal new scientific findings about the moon" from data collected during national and international space missions.

The unmanned Indian craft was equipped with NASA's Moon Mineralogy Mapper.

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Top Ten Sex Tips for Men

At any given second, 4,000 people are having sex in the world. So ‘knocking’ is the most happening or ‘rocking’ thing in the world. Sex is not all about doing it in the bed. The three attributes that can help you in building an effective relationship with women include - your caring nature, communication skills and your confident attitude. ‘Lusty talk’ during sex can help to stimulate women even more. Tease her and make her feel desirable and you are sure to give her orgasm even if your performance is below par.

1. If you sweat during sex don’t worry – sweating men ooze testosterone and it is a biological turn on for women.

2. During sex keep the room warm rather than cold. So maybe turn off the air-conditioner if necessary or turn it on low. Heat causes dilatation of blood vessels and more swelling of the penis and vagina and flushing of the skin. Heat makes you ‘flush during sex.’

3. If you want your girl to become pregnant make sure you give her a big orgasm. The chances of pregnancy increases because contraction of pelvic muscles during orgasm help the sperms move up the vaginal canal and fertilize the eggs.

4. If your girl has a headache and you have no pills available give her a big orgasm and this can relieve her headache. Sex is known to cure headaches due to release of morphine like pain killer substances in the brain called endorphins.

5. Big orgasm also requires you to indulge in some foreplay. Gently touching, stroking, sucking and licking your partners nipples, thighs, vagina and clitoris are sometimes enough to start the orgasm. Keep the big act for the end.

6. Stimulate her clitoris with your fingers by gently fondling with the area. Remember the sensory nerve fibers have the highest concentration around the clitoris followed by labia, and the outer third of the vagina.

7. Find her G-Spot – G-spot stimulation can give a woman a big orgasm. It is usually located in the front section of the vaginal wall between her vaginal opening and the cervix. Use finger to stroke the front portion of the vagina and during intercourse the best way to stimulate her G-spot is insertion of the penis from the back. If the G-spot and clitoris are simulated simultaneously the women is likely to have ‘one hell of a orgasm’ that she is unlikely to forget.

8. Early morning sex is also a great option if you are tired in the night. You can get extra help from the surge of Testosterone in the morning. Blood levels of testosterone are highest just before dawn and are 40% higher than in the evening.

9. Keep you ‘But’ in shape - Buttocks of a man are the most admired part of a man’s body by women.

10. Age is not a factor for sex as much as it is for women. Studies show that even if you are over 70 years the chances of your being potent is over 73%. Actor Anthony Quinn fathered a baby at the age of 81 years.

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Anal sex how dangerous is it?

Me and my husband recently decided to experiment in our sex life, so we decided to give anal sex a try. We've done it twice and the second time wasn't as painful as the first. But now I am scared to death. I am afraid I've done something really wrong. I've been in alot of pain recently. I went to my doctor and told him that i was in alot of pain and did not know why. (I was too embarrased to tell him what i had done). He thought maybe I was just constipated and gave me some stool softner. Hoping that he was right I just agreed and took the medication. My bowel movements are fine but the pain proceeds. He did think that this problem was around my colon area because when he touched the right side of my abdomin it was excrutiating. He informed me that my colon was in that area. I am really nervous, I don't know how dangerous this could be but it's starting to hurt to even walk. Does anyone know?? Could it be a bad infection or something?? Please someone respond this is so embarrasing I don't want to talk to anyone face to face.

There are several complications to anal sex: Pain from hemorrhoids. Hemorrhoids can be fragile and prone to bleeding, although they don't usually cause the kind of pain you've described. You can frequently feel a hemorrhoid as a swollen, tender lump in the anal area. You'll often notice blood from a bleeding hemorrhoid on toilet paper after a bowel movement, or on the stool itself.

Pain and bleeding can also occur when there's a small tear in the lining of the anus called an anal fissure. Even small fissures can be pretty painful because they often cause spasms of the opening of the anus. They heal slowly because they're irritated repeatedly during bowel movements. With anal fissures, you may also see blood on toilet paper or on the stool itself.

A rare, but serious, complication after anal sex is a hole (perforation) in the colon. This dangerous problem requires hospitalization, surgery to repair the hole, and antibiotics to prevent infection. A colonic perforation will usually cause fever and severe pain and pressure in the abdomen. This condition requires immediate medical attention, either through your health care provider or your local hospital emergency department.

Sexually transmitted diseases can infect the anus in much the same way as vaginal intercouse.

My advice to you if you do not have fever and the pain is somewhat bearable, is to take an colic pain killer, a stool softner for a couple of days. If you do not improve then you will have to consult someone face to face and you may even need a scope exam. A surgeon would be best at evaluating this condition.

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Drink green coffee 'to lose weight'

Want to shed flab? Drink green coffee daily, says a new study.

Researchers have carried out the study and found that chlorogenic acid from green coffee causes significant levels of weight loss -- the drink works by reducing sugar absorption from the gut and speeding up the rate at which fat is burned.

In a four-week trial assessing Coffee Shape, the researchers found that those who drank one cup a day lost 3.5 pounds in two weeks, and 4.45 pounds in a month. That compares to drinkers of standard coffee, who on average lose just 0.3lb in two weeks compared to those who drink no coffee at all.

Laurent Fresnel, of ATP Life, makers of Coffee Shape, was quoted by the 'Daily Mail' as saying: "Green coffee is similar to green tea. In its raw, unroasted form, it is rich in plant molecules that speed metabolism and aid weight loss.

"These molecules of chlorogenic acid are strong antioxidants that appear to have other health benefits too. Unfortunately, they are destroyed in the roasting process, so are not found in high levels in regular coffee."

The findings of this study have been published in the 'American Journal of Clinical Nutrition'.

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Women on HRT 'more likely to die from lung cancer'

Ladies, please note -- hormone replacement therapy might massively boost your sexual interest after menopause, but it can raise your risk of dying from lung cancer, say researchers.

An eight-year study of over 16,000 women, published in the latest edition of British medical journal 'Lancet', has revealed that the disease is more likely to be fatal if women take HRT than a dummy placebo pill.

The study, which involved patients using hormones to ease symptoms of the menopause, showed that women on HRT are no more likely to develop lung cancer -- but if they do, they are then more likely to die.

Lead researcher Dr Apar Kishor Ganti of University of Nebraska Medical Centre said the research showed HRT should probably be avoided for women at a high risk of lung cancer -- especially smokers.

"These results, along with the findings showing no protection against coronary heart disease, seriously question whether HRT has any role in medicine today," the 'Daily Mail' quoted him as saying.

But British experts challenged whether the findings were relevant here and stressed that lung cancer rates were relatively low, clearly saying, "there's no other alternative to HRT currently".

Professor Karol Sikora, a cancer specialist, said: "Women still need HRT and they like it because it makes them look and feel better.

There isn't currently an alternative, so they shouldn't stop taking it and doctors should not stop giving it out."

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Simple ways to protect your child from swine flu

As swine flu continues to infect school kids, parental anxieties have stirred up with each one trying to be cautious enough to avoid the spread of HINI virus that has caused severe illness and deaths worldwide.

Dr Galit Holzmann-Pazgal assistant professor of pediatrics at The University of Texas Medical School at Houston suggest parents can ease their anxieties by arming themselves with facts about H1N1 and using some commonsense tips.

*Wash your hands after you touch...and Twitter

Washing your hands is the single-most important step to prevent the spread of H1N1. The virus is spread by droplets from coughs and sneezes as well as touching hands and objects contaminated with these droplets such as each other''s phones, computer keyboards, iPods and video games.
Main symptoms of swine flu are fatigue and fever. Others include body aches, runny or stuffy nose, cough, sore throat and fever, headache, chills, diarrhea and vomiting

*Know when it is an emergency

Call your doctor if your child has symptoms including rapid breathing, not drinking enough, fussiness or if symptoms improve and then return with fever and worsened cough.

*With mild cases, call your doctor first

If your child just feels lousy, and doesn''t have a high fever or trouble breathing, call your pediatrician instead of heading to the hospital.

*Keep the kids home

Keep your sick child at home for at least 24 hours after his fever is gone (without the use of a fever-reducing medicine) except to get medical care or for other necessities, according to the CDC.

Encourage her to cover her mouth and nose with a tissue when coughing or sneezing, throw away used tissue in the waste basket, and to clean her hands every time she coughs or sneezes.

*Start the vaccinations

Federal officials expect release of the H1N1 vaccine in October. The vaccine may require a second shot given three weeks after the first. It may take another two weeks before the vaccine fully protects the body against the flu. Recent studies showed that one shot may protect against H1N1, stretching the supply of the vaccine.

Until the H1N1 shot is ready, Pazgal advises families to go ahead and get the "regular" flu shot, which protects against the seasonal flu and is already available. That way, your children won''t get the flu twice in one season.

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New blood tests promise simple cancer detection

Two new blood tests could help doctors detect colon and stomach cancers simply, cheaply and early without the need for invasive procedures or unpleasant examinations, researchers said on Monday.

The tests, one developed by the Belgian biotech firm OncoMethylome and another by scientists in Germany, use blood samples to detect specific genetic signals of the disease and could help predict whether it is likely to spread.

Ernst Kuipers, a specialist in bowel cancer at Rotterdam's Erasmus University, who was not involved in the research, said the new tests marked a promising advance in the field of developing more convenient screening.

"The blood sample can be taken by nurses or primary care doctors without the need for special equipment or training," Joost Louwagie of OncoMethylome said.

Ulrike Stein, who presented her findings with Louwagie's at the ECCO-ESMO European cancer congress in Berlin, said hers was the first test to be able to detect signals of a specific gene, called S100A4 and known to be linked to cancer, in the blood.

Stein's test finds various types of cancer, including colorectal and gastric cancers, and had also shown potential in identifying patients whose cancer was likely to spread.

"Cancer patients have significantly higher levels of this S100A4 gene than people without cancer," she said. "Being able to detect this gene in the blood of the patient, you can monitor the disease course and you can continue to monitor it over several years and throughout various treatments."

Colorectal cancer effects around one in every 17 people and is the second leading cause of cancer death in the United States and Europe, where a total of 560,000 people develop the disease each year, and 250,000 die from it.

Deaths can be reduced if the cancer is diagnosed early, when it is most treatable.

Although current tests such as a colonoscopy internal examination or the analysis of stool samples are effective, they can be invasive, expensive and unpleasant.

Stein and colleagues from the ECRC Charite University of Medicine and the Max-Delbrueck-Center for Molecular Medicine in Berlin looked at daily blood samples from 185 colon cancer patients, 190 with rectal cancer and 91 gastric cancer patients. They also analyzed blood from 51 tumor-free volunteers.

They found a signal of the gene at significantly higher levels in those with the cancers. There were even higher levels in patients whose cancer had spread.

Louwagie's team collected blood before surgery from 193 patients known to have colorectal cancer, and from 688 people being screened using a colonoscopy internal examination.

They looked for two so-called methylation genes, SYNE1 and FOXE1, known to be linked to the formation of tumors, and found high levels in colorectal cancer patients, Louwagie said.

OncoMethylome said in August it was in advanced talks with several large companies over licensing rights to its colorectal test.

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Be Super in Bed For the First Time ;;Sex Tips For Virgins -

The first time you make love can be both exciting and fraught with apprehension; it is the same for almost everyone, regardless of looks and confidence. It is quite common, then, to research ways to improve your performance before the big occasion. The sex tips for virgins in this article will do two things for you: they will help make your first performance of sexual intimacy a better one and, knowing such guidelines, your confidence will be vastly improved.

Talk With Your Partner - You will both be feeling pretty much the same. Get all of your worries and hopes out into the open. This will allow you to approach the occasion with more confidence.

Help With Premature Ejaculation - It is common for virgin males to become over-excited and be unable to sustain lovemaking for a long time. The solution is to masturbate several hours before the time of intimacy. Six to twelve hours should be perfect.

Pain And Bleeding For Females - You will experience a little pain and blood loss; this is normal. You can minimize these, however, if you wait to make love until you are fully aroused. This means that plenty of foreplay is vital. You should also encourage the use of lubricants.

Sexual Positions - The last thing you want to try to be, especially first time out, is a porn star. When you decide on a sex position, do not keep changing; stick with the same position and then gradually move on to the next. The missionary position is perfect for first-timers; it is simple and you get to be close to your partner and look into their eyes which is very intimate. If you must use another position, try the woman on top position. This involved the woman straddling the man, and deciding on the depth and angle of penetration. The woman, in this position, is easily able to induce a clitoral orgasm.

Orgasm - The man should try to let the woman orgasm first. If you have trouble lasting long enough to let this happen, just try thinking of something else while you are making love and encouraging your partner to climax because you are, yourself, near to it.

The best sex tips for virgins are to talk to one another and always try to make the other feel comfortable during the act of lovemaking. Open communication is the key. Try also to keep things simple and stick with one or two sex positions. Lastly, remember that no one expects you not to make mistakes on your first time; we are, after all, only human!

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Age no barrier for Pregnancy: Expert

Even though women live longer than men in most developed countries yet motherhood is considered appropriate only for the younger ones, a belief that needs to be changed, a leading Indian expert said here.

"We tend to go by the stereotype that a mother should be a young person. While young age is an advantage, older women have an equal right to motherhood," Dr N Pandiyan, chief consultant in andrology and reproductive medicine at Tamil Nadu's Chettinad Hospital said at an International conference of Gynaecologists here.

150 experts from India, UK and the Middle East attended the conference that was inaugurated by Lord Winston, a leading gynaecologist here.

According to Pandiyan, age should not be a barrier for women who seek motherhood and women who are fit enough to bear a child should not be discouraged whatever their age be.

"Any woman who is fit enough to go through pregnancy and childbirth should be offered that opportunity by all available means. Arguing that she may not live to see her child through teenage years is specious," he said.

"Many women who were denied motherhood for medical reasons are now having successful pregnancies and deliveries; women with kidney diseases, juvenile diabetes, liver or kidney transplant and more," he said.

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Do you snore? Here's help

Snoring often leads to embarrassment and wrecks your partner's sleep. Now, experts from Mayo Clinic have offered some simple ways to silence the disturbing nasal sound.

Snoring is caused by relaxed and sagging tissues. As sleep deepens, the tongue relaxes, as do the soft tissues of the throat and the roof of the mouth (soft palate). The tissues can sag into the airway, causing it to narrow. As air is inhaled or exhaled through the narrowed opening, the relaxed tissues of the soft palate vibrate. The result is snoring.

Mayo Clinic Health Letter covers these treatment approaches:

Lose weight
Experts have advised snorers to lose weight as the extra bulk narrows airways, contributing to snoring.

Avoid alcohol
Alcohol consumption can cause excessive muscle relaxation. Therefore avoiding alcohol for at least four hours before bedtime may help.

Relieve nasal obstruction
Using adhesive nasal strips (Breathe Right, others) or corticosteroid nasal sprays can help reduce nasal obstruction.

Change sleep positions
In back sleepers, the tongue can sag and narrow the airway during sleep. A doctor can suggest techniques to learn to sleep comfortably in other positions.

Stop smoking
Smoking is associated with an increased risk of snoring. People who stop have a lower rate of snoring.

Try assistive devices
The most effective treatment for snoring is a continuous positive airway pressure (CPAP) machine. It delivers pressurized air through a mask, keeping the upper airway open during sleep.

Consider surgery
Surgery is considered a last resort to cure snoring due to its complications. Several surgical procedures can help reduce snoring, either by cutting away excess mouth and throat tissue or by stiffening tissues of the soft palate to prevent vibration and sagging.

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Your Handwriting can show if you’re Lying

If you want to know if someone is telling you the truth, just go through his or her handwriting, say scientists in Haifa, Israel.

According to psychologists, handwriting changes when someone lies, and this is so because the brain has to work harder to invent facts, which then in turn interfere with the normal writing process.

To reach the conclusion, researchers at the University of Haifa, Israel, asked 34 volunteers to write two short paragraphs, where in one they recalled a real memory while in the other a fictitious event, reports The Telegraph.

The volunteers used a wireless electronic pen with a tip that was pressure-sensitive in order to write their memories and lies.

Later the paper was placed on a computer tablet, which monitored and analysed their writing style.

The scientists then found those who wrote lies pressed harder on the paper, had longer pen strokes and produced taller letters than those telling the truth.

“In the false writing condition, the average pressure, stroke length and height were significantly higher than in the true writing condition,” the researchers said.

Professor Richard Wiseman, psychologist at the University of Hertfordshire, told the Daily Mail the technique was promising.

“We know that people hesitate more when they lie and some companies already use this fact to see how long it takes people to tick boxes when filling in surveys online,” he said.

The study has been published in the Journal of Applied Cognitive Psychology.

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Teaching Teen Girls: 5 Signs A Guy Is Only Interested in Sex

How do parents teach their teen daughter that they have to learn whether or not a guy is only interested in sex? It is important dating lesson, one that teens are learning earlier and earlier.

Here are a few tips I like to give teen girls when they start thinking about boys and dating:

1) Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Boys can be smooth talkers. One thing I try to impress upon girls (even on my 23 year-old friends) is that girls read way more into language than boys. Some boys—not all, might stretch the truth if it means they will get to hook-up with you. That is why listening to actions, is almost more important than listening to words. Does he say he cannot wait to see you, but forgets to call? Does he say that he does not care if you hook-up, but then is very physical when you see each other?

2) Learn to Read Faces

Most people actually display most of their emotions on their faces. Teen boys especially are not very good at hiding their true emotions. This can be a great way to see if he is telling the truth and how he really feels. Look at his face the instant you say ‘no’ to doing something you are uncomfortable with. Does he look sad, scared, embarrassed or worried? These are all OK emotions. If he looks angry, resentful, bored or annoyed this is not a good sign.

3) How Do His Friends Treat You

Guys always talk to their guys about sex and you. I find that if you meet his friends and they have heard about you, talk to you and take an interest in you, your guy probably shared his idea that he likes you more than just for sex. If they ignore you, make lewd comments or snicker when you come in, you might want to have a talk with one of them or your guy for what they know.

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10 Sex-Drive Stealers for Women

You used to want to tear your husband’s clothes off. Now? Not so much. If you’ve been suffering from “honey, not tonight” syndrome (a.k.a. low sex drive), health experts say you’re not alone. It’s estimated that as many as 40 million women in the United States suffer from a waning libido. Here are 10 of the most common—and surprising—reasons why your sex drive may have taken a nosedive, and how to get your groove back.
Sex Drive Stealer #1: Messy Bedroom What does your bedroom look like right now? Is the bed unmade? Are your dressers piled high with books, magazines and dust? Past research has linked bedroom clutter with unhappiness and mild depression, but some experts take it a step further and say that a messy bedroom could be the cause of a lackluster sex drive. “We do know that women, more so than men, are prone to cognitive distractions—thinking of other things in ways that interfere with sex,” says Debby Herbenick, PhD, author of Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction.

A messy bedroom could increase such cognitive distractions. “It could make you think ‘I should really get new curtains’ or ‘Look at that stack of bills—I hope I already paid the electric!’” Dr. Herbenick says. “Mess is a reminder of all the things we haven't done yet. This can greatly interfere with a sense of calm, which can help women to relax, focus exclusively on their feelings of love and desire, and then get in the mood for sex.”Sex Drive Stealer #2: Anger

If you’re unsure why your sex drive has tanked lately, consider this surprising source: repressed anger. According to Pepper Schwartz, PhD, a psychologist and relationship expert for PerfectMatch.com, it’s one of the biggest causes of low sex drive in women. She says, “Women who have a lot of feelings of anger toward their partner—whether it’s annoyance that he didn’t help around the house or something more serious—don’t feel like having sex. Anger quashes all desire.”

How to Feel Sexy Again: “Track down the source of the anger, and deal with it,” advices Dr. Schwartz. Whether it’s anger over his lack of empathy or the fact that he didn’t do the dishes last night, “don’t let anger become toxic to your relationship.”
Sex Drive Stealer #3: Perfectionism

Your husband’s in the mood, but you’re not. After all, how could you be? There’s unfolded laundry piled high on the bed, you just got back from the gym (and haven’t even showered yet) and the baby is probably going to wake up for his 9 p.m. feeding any second. Sound familiar? “Perfectionism places a huge burden on sex drive,” says Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, MS, PT, a psychologist and physical therapist in Dallas. “A perfectionist thinks she needs to look and smell perfect, her mate must be perfect and the environment must be perfect.” Here’s the problem: “This state of perfection, of course, is impossible,” she continues. “Because of this, the perfectionist is stressed out about the flaws rather than enjoying time with her partner.”

How to Feel Sexy Again: “Give yourself, and your partner, a break,” says Dr. Lombardo. “Make your goal to have fun and enjoy intimacy rather than have it be perfect. That’s all he wants from you, after all.”

Sex Drive Stealer #4: The Economy

Could it be possible that the recession has entered…your bedroom? Indeed, says Dr. Lombardo. Call it a ro-cession (romance + recession) if you like, but the truth is, financial worries can have serious effects on libido. “Worry can deplete any sex drive, and it doesn’t have to be about the relationship or sex,” explains Dr. Lombardo. “Lately, a lot of my clients who are worried about the economy, losing their jobs, or not being able to retire when they had planned are also complaining of having no desire for physical intimacy. Research shows stress and worry top the causes for low sex drive.”


How to Feel Sexy Again: If you can’t make your worries go away, says Dr. Lombardo, try to get a handle on them at least. Instead of lying in bed at night thinking about how much money you lost in the stock market or whether you’re going to be able to make your house payment, tell yourself you’re only allowed to worry at certain times of the day. “Schedule some time to worry,” she says. “This may seem odd, but research shows that doing this will actually decrease your worrying.” She adds, “Physical intimacy is a great way to combat stress and worry.” So think of sex as a form of therapy.
Sex Drive Stealer #5: Unresolved Trauma

Was your house broken into last year? Did a close relative die recently? Are you still feeling the effects of a traumatic birth—months, years later? “While trauma may have happened in the past, it can continue to affect you, and your sex drive,” says Dr. Lombardo. In fact, “some mental health professionals believe that decreased libido should be a necessary diagnostic criteria for post-traumatic stress disorder.”

How to Feel Sexy Again: “Even though it may have happened in the past, you can address your reaction to the trauma,” she says. When it makes sense, “forgive the person who wronged you.” But also forgive yourself. “I often find my clients blame themselves for others’ acts.” And, do “seek professional assistance if you need to. You and your loved ones deserve it,” she says.

Sex Drive Stealer #6: High Cholesterol

A recent article in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found a correlation between high cholesterol and women who report difficulty with arousal and orgasm. Here’s why: “Cholesterol can build up on the walls of the arteries of the body, including those to the pelvic area,” says Dr. Stephanie Buehler, PsyD, a psychologist and sex therapist in Irvine, California. “Researchers speculate that when blood flow to the pelvic area is restricted, there can be less sensation in the genitals. That can make orgasm more difficult, which can in turn make sex frustrating.”

How to Feel Sexy Again: Change your diet! Dr. Buehler suggests reducing the amount of whole-milk products and animal fats you consume while upping your intake of fruits, vegetables and other fiber-rich foods, which could help block the absorption of cholesterol in the bloodstream and improve your sexual health.

Sex Drive Stealer #7: Birth Control

It’s ironic that the thing that is supposed to make sex feel more freeing and comfortable could be the thing that makes your sex drive flatline, but it’s true, says Leah Millheiser, MD, director of the Female Sexual Medicine Program at Stanford University School of Medicine. Hormone-based birth control, she says, increases your sex hormone binding globulin, which reduces testosterone. That’s medical speak for “there’s a good chance your birth control pills might be messing with your sex drive.”

How to Feel Sexy Again: Consider a copper intrauterine device for more lasting, and hormone-free, birth control; switch back to condoms (they’re not that bad); or talk to your doctor about changing your prescription, especially if you’re experiencing vaginal dryness coupled with a disinterest in sex. Remember, the contraceptive that works for one woman’s libido may not for another. “It’s different for every woman and depends on the formulation,” says Dr. Millheiser.

Sex Drive Stealer #9: No Date Nights

According to Dr. John Beiter, PhD, a Pittsburgh-based psychologist and sex therapist, if you don’t have a date night planned with your husband and can’t remember the last time you sat down and connected—even if it was just across the kitchen table—your sex drive may be suffering. “In my research to date, I have discovered that women with low sex drive often have a lack of emotional connection with their partners,” says Dr. Beiter.

How to Feel Sexy Again: Plan a date night, of course! In fact, go ahead and e-mail this article to your husband right now, asking him to make reservations at your favorite restaurant tonight. But here’s some homework for the bedroom: Dr. Beiter says he encourages couples to “move away from a performance-based sexuality, where sex is typically defined as intercourse and mandatory orgasms.” Instead, he suggests taking up “pleasure-based sexuality, where the focus is on pleasure, fun and intimacy.”

Sex Drive Stealer #10: You’re Nursing

You had your adorable bundle of joy months ago and lost (most) of the pregnancy weight, so why hasn’t your sex drive returned? If you’re still nursing, blame your breasts. As it turns out, prolactin, the hormone that’s responsible for lactation, is a real buzz kill for the libido, decreasing your body’s production of estrogen and testosterone. “This can lead to vaginal dryness and lack of sex drive,” explains Dr. Millheiser.

How to Feel Sexy Again: First, applaud yourself for investing in the health of your baby, says Dr. Millheiser, and remember that it’s only temporary. After all, you’re not going to be breastfeeding your baby forever! In the meantime, use plenty of lubricant and try not to feel frustrated at your body’s slowness to feel aroused.

How to Feel Sexy Again: Tackle the clutter, and other distracting things in your boudoir. “If you and your partner watch too much TV, move it to the living room. If there's a stack of mail or bills, put them in a room that you associate with work, not sleep or sex,” recommends Dr. Herbenick

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Problems with oral and anal sex

Well, I’m glad that our advice has helped you defeat premature ejaculation.

Yes, it is true that very occasionally a woman is allergic to her partner's semen. Symptoms are soreness, redness and swelling of the sex organs. But I know of no other ill effects from contact with seminal fluid.

Your next question is about fellatio. This is harmless, unless either party is carrying a sex infection.

But in the rare instance of a woman being allergic to her man's sperm, fellatio would probably cause swelling, soreness and redness in the throat.

Next, you ask about anal sex. We don't really recommend this - but there's no doubt that these days a lot of couples happily practise it – and that it has become much more popular in the last few years.

1. passing on of infection (if one of you has one).
2. damage to the woman's anus (especially if you're rough).
3. spread of germs from anus to vagina (if you have vaginal sex immediately afterwards).
4. possible urinary infection in the man (very uncommon).

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Sex Styles With A Twist

Traditional sex positions tend to get a bad rap these days, and understandably so; they have a tendency to get old rather quickly. You may be surprised, however, to learn that these classic sex positions can be turned into something hot and altogether fantastic with just a few minor adjustments. Our sex positions with a twist are easy to do, and they don’t require the skill of an acrobat. And, perhaps most importantly, our sex positions with a twist deliver -- for both you and your woman. Try one of the following sex positions with a twist and you’ll see what we mean.
Cowgirl Lap Dance
The original cowgirl position is fabulous all on its own, but when you add a chair to the mix, it becomes one of our hottest sex positions with twist. Grab a kitchen chair and sit yourself down. Pull your woman close, and help her slide onto your lap. With her feet touching the floor, she’ll be able to rotate her hips and tease your erection with her clitoris, making this a very sexy precursor to intercourse. You’ll also have a birds’-eye view of her breasts. When she’s ready for intercourse, this position will give her better control than the traditional cowgirl position does, which means the ride is going to be twice as wild and twice as good.
Doggy Leg Lift
If you’re looking to add a little extra something to doggie style, this sex position with a twist will definitely make your woman holler. Bend her over on the bed, spread her legs and lift one of her thighs. This will allow for the deepest penetration possible; simply twist your body toward hers and drape her thigh across your hip while you thrust. Your free hand can either slip into her hair for that gentle tug so many women crave, or you can use it to stimulate her clitoris. Either way, she’ll be hollering for more.
Missionary With Pillows
The good old-fashioned missionary position can lead to mind-blowing sex with the simple addition of a pillow. This sex position with a twist is incredibly easy and virtually guarantees orgasm; possibly even for both of you at the same time. Lay your woman down on her back and slide a pillow under her backside. Spread her thighs apart and place her feet flat against the mattress. Penetration from this angle will be deeper than ever before, and the unavoidable clitoral stimulation will make her orgasm deliciously intense.
Spoon Split
This sex position with a twist is a big favorite with many women because it feels highly intimate and very naughty at the same time. From the traditional spooning position, take her top leg and drape it across your own. This will force her thighs into a fairly widespread position, which can make even the shyest of women feel like a sexual nymph. You’ll be able to thrust deeply, while having very easy access to her clitoris. Don’t be surprised to see her thrashing about like a madwomen; sex in this position will make her feel extremely saucy.

These sex positions with a twist will have her swooningReverse Cowgirl Squat
This is one sex position with a twist that often leads to wild and rambunctious sex. Get on your knees while facing the bed’s headboard, and rest your bum on your heels. Have your woman squat over your lap while grasping the headboard; she’s going to use it for leverage as she lowers herself onto your erection. Grip the curve of her waist as she rides you -- this will help to balance her during sex. Gentle hair tugging and mild spankings are also generally appreciated, and easily accomplished, in this position.
Standing Rhythm
Most men have fantasized about bending a woman over the sofa and having their wicked way with her. Believe it or not, most women have fantasized about their man doing the same thing. This sex position with a twist makes the most of that fantasy and then some. Bend your woman over the sofa (the kitchen table works quite well too) spread her legs apart. Deep thrusting is very easy from this position, and you’ll especially rock her world if you rotate your hips during penetration. Add a little spanking into the mix and you’ll have a very content woman on your hands when it’s over.
69 + 1
Oral sex in the 69 position is something most people enjoy -- but there’s so much more fun to be had when you add fingers and toys into the mix. Instead of laying in the traditional position, lay side to side, as this will make it easier to manipulate the toys. Start this sex position with a twist the old-fashioned way; tongue her clitoris until she’s wet and begging for penetration. Once she’s ready, maintain the oral stimulation while slipping a finger inside of her. Or, if you really want to drive her mad with lust, replace your fingers with a small vibrator; multiple orgasms are just around the corner.
upgrade your positions
There’s nothing wrong with traditional sex positions; an orgasm is an orgasm regardless of how one achieves it. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t try something new now and then; a little extra spice can go a very long way in the bedroom. These sex positions with a twist are saucy enough to bring out the minx in your woman, but aren’t so extreme that she has to leave her comfort zone to enjoy herself -- which means you’ll be free to enjoy yourself as well.

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